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Break Your Depression

You can break your depression and start living better. Depression is a debilitating disease that millions of sufferers fight to overcome. Here I share my personal experiences living with depression in an effort to manage my symptoms more effectively and help others in the same situation. It has become a, "life line' and brings me joy. My hope and prayer is this blog will bless and encourage you to never give up. I truly believe the contents of this website and the posts will help you better relate to your current situation and begin to make decisions that will catapult your life to next level. I have suffered from depression for longer than I will admit and have been treated for this debilitating condition for several years. I was anti-social and although I was able to maintain my employment, I was not "happy". Some days I felt somewhat "happy" while other days I felt as though I could see no real "purpose" for my life. I was just existing from day-to-day. As I sought treatment after years of prodding from my best friend, I started taking medication and although I have improved in many ways I am still impacted by depression on a daily basis. I want to share my experiences in an effort to help someone else with a similar story. I know there are many people who need help but are afraid to seek treatment. Please take the time to subscribe to this blog for daily insight and If there is something I can do for you send me an email; u_r_worth_it@yahoo.com.

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To Whom Much Is Given, Much is Required

"Continue to give and you shall be blessed exponentially."

My Tears Are Temporary

My tears are temporary because I will not allow depression to get the best of me. My tears are temporary because I am fighting to overcome my circumstances. My tears are temporary because I am expecting a breakthrough any day now. My tears are temporary because even if sadness endures for the night, joy will come in the morning. My tears are temporary because I will not always feel as though I am in a dark place. I will soon walk into a place that is illuminated with a brilliant light that shines and beams; I can feel the reflection on my face that feels warm and peaceful. My tears are temporary because I know I will come out of this stronger. I know I am a winner because I refuse to quit. I am a winner because giving up is never an option. I am a winner because there are individuals waiting on me to succeed to empower them.

Every Setback is a Setup; For a Comeback

Every time you are faced with a perceived SETBACK; fired from a job, passed over for a promotion, failing health, sad news or a disappointment. You are actually being prepared for a major breakthrough in your life. All of these circumstances are common life experiences that shape who we are. Often times,they catapult us to the next level in life, the next step on our journey, the next rung on the ladder of success. We are being SETUP for success, aligned to overcome, seasoned to shine. The sweetest COMEBACK of all time has been forecast in your future, and it is headed your way and destined to appear. We must remain steadfast, true to our purpose and relentless in our quest. Hang in there, do not give up and continue doing what you do best.

Your Latter Will Be Greater Than The Rest

"Everything You Need To Succeed Lies Within You."

Why People Kill Themselves

This is a very difficult subject to discuss. However, I want to shed light on the issue because I know so many people try to understand why their loved ones would commit such an act perceived to be, “selfish.” I am able to speak on this topic because I have suffered from clinical depression for most of my adult life.

If I had to answer the question about why I became depressed I would say the single event I believe contributed the most; the sudden divorce of my parents. It has taken years to arrive at that conclusion but it’s all makes sense now. I was a freshmen in college and it was devastating. I consider myself to be a resident expert on the reason people kill themselves because I believe that 95% of people who suffer from depression have thought about ending their lives.A depressed person who take psychotropic drugs has the means to end their life by simply taking an overdose and the truth is, if someone really wants to die by way of suicide there is not much anyone can do unless you catch them in enough time to save them.

Let me say this, in most cases the successful person in committing suicide is not trying to hurt anyone; they are trying to end their pain. At the moment they decide to pull the trigger, hang themselves,jump off a bridge, take an overdose, step off the curb into oncoming traffic, or sit in the garage with the car running. During that time and space, during that precise moment they believe there is absolutely nothing to live for and life is too painful. Death is bearable. This feeling of hopelessness may only last for a split second but… That is when they jump, or pull the trigger, or take the overdoes, or step off the curb, or put the noose around their neck, or start the car engine; for that second they could not continue on. They never lived to realize the next moment, or hour, or day or week would be better. Some may have killed themselves accidentally. Most importantly know, it was most likely not about you, or because of you.

Depression is a debilitating disease that affects millions of people every single moment of every single day. People who are depressed do not want to be this way.. They feel as though they are a burden when they are feeling down and that is why they isolate themselves, stop communicating and try on their own volition to pull themselves out. You should know the warning signs but there may not be any. The best help you do for a depressed person is to check on they through a phone call, text, email or face to face visit. Just don’t ignore them. Let them know you care and have thought about how they are doing. You can also encourage them to exercise, get at least fifteen minutes per day of sunshine, listen to upbeat music,keep a journal and set at least two attainable goals per day. They could even plan the goals out in advance and put them on their calendar so when the day comes when they don’t feel like thinking of a goal they can just check their calendar.

Do not feel sorry for people who suffer from depression, rather empathize and be committed to understanding their situation. The main thing they want from their loved ones in constant contact and reassurance they are loved and not looked down upon. Because they are in such a vulnerable state, they begin to ponder on thoughts that are not true. There mind is trying to have them believe thoughts that are not true. Most of all, do not give up on them and do not take their situation personally. They are emotionally sick and often times struggle ti understand themselves. Most of all, pray for the depressed each and every day.

The Worst Part of Depression

The worst part of depression is not knowing day to day how you will be feeling. As we all know, time waits for no one which means a depressive episode can occur at the worst possible time. Such as, a busy week that requires your attention to details and your optimal performance. A time when you are required to engaged with others and you are just not up to it. No matter what comes your way, it seems depression changes the outcome. It is really a frustrating existence dealing with a mental illness that requires your constant assessment and wherewithal. Living with depression is like being in a race for survival every day; knowing the outcome has nothing to do with how much you trained or prepared. The outcome is largely based on your ability to overcome the thoughts that permeate your mind and the feelings of sadness that plague your soul.

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Can I Continue This Way

I am really sad right now. I have had a stressful month with so many different issues. A death in the family of a close aunt, a sick dog, misunderstandings with friends and physical illness. I have endured terrible headaches every day and my  level is extremely low.

Continue reading

Helping You Understand My Plight

Helping you understand my plight would allow you to, walk  in my shoes, feel what I am going through, share my pain and experience my plight. I am not seeking your sympathy but rather your understanding; I am not expecting you to fully understand what I am going through; but ask you to be willing to accept my circumstances. 

I want more than anything to be healed from this unforgiving disease that attempts to steal my joy every day of my life. If you try to understand my plight, you will understand I am not always late on purpose; I may say, “no” to the social events you invite me to, but my decision has nothing to do with you.  Depression causes me to lose interest in friends, makes me feel like sleeping all the time and robs my energy. Some days I am able to escape the gloom, but on others I am not feeling as capable.  It really can be a dark existence but as many understanding individuals I can reach out to the better my chance for survival.

 

 

Do Not Take On The Problems Of Others

It has been my experience that many people who suffer from depression are codependent and their main focus is on the care and concern of others. They take on the problems of others and rarely tend to their needs; often ending up in both physical and emotional pain.  In return, depression manifests and profound sadness begins to set in. The depressed individual must remain mindful of their sensitive condition in order to not take on stress producing situations. Often, it becomes difficult because many are characteristically nurtures. This means they may take on financial hardships which causes their personal desires and interests to be put on a permanent hold.

Taking a complete inventory of all the problems that were created either by helping other people or putting their needs first; would likely point to small percentage of problems you can take ownership of.  The depressed individual must accept they cannot, “save everyone,” especially when they are dying every day.   The problems of others are not your responsibility and cannot remain your priority.  You must find a way to take care of you and make it all about you.  Do not take on the problems of others if you want to be free of depression.

 

Depression and Vulnerability

Depression causes vulnerability among its sufferers because they reach out for help and understanding. The depressed have everything to lose because of their vulnerability. They develop a sensitivity as a result of the vulnerability they experience and the self-doubting thoughts that often permeate their mind. The depressed individual more than likely knows the thoughts are not true however, they persist and during weak moments they resonate.  Most people are afraid to reveal their true feelings, expose their secrets or pour out their heart.  They do not want to be placed in a compromising position because their vulnerability may portray a weakness.  Even though depression sufferers need someone to listen and try to understand, they often feel misunderstood. They are constantly trying to either rationalize or understand the intentions of others when there may not be an intention. 

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Depression Has No Power In My Life

RECITE MONTHLY

Depression has no power in my life.  I have nothing to prove to anyone. I am my own person capable of holding my own and I do not need validation from anyone to determine my self-worth.  I will begin today making independent decisions based upon my needs. I will no longer place the needs of others before myself; I will stand up and fight for the convictions I am not willing to compromise. I know that my depression in part stems from other people who I have given to much power over my life.  Every day I will begin to make decisions that will reflect my beliefs and value system.  I want to heal and therefore I will take on difficult tasks and make better choices for the right reasons.                                   Giving Up is NEVER an Option

 

 

 

 

The Rest My of Life

RECITE DAILY

The rest of mt life will be better. I am more determined than ever to fight depression head on.  I will no longer sleep my life away and no matter how hard it is to get out of the house, I vow that I will. I am no longer willing to let depression define who I am .  My life is worth living and I am here for a purpose.  I will not give up because, “Giving Up Is Never An Option.”

Depression Makes Life So Hard

Depression makes life so hard. Today, I learned of the death of a twenty-four year old young man by way of suicide. As I read the article I was pained for his family, but especially for him.  He was so young.  He had many positive things going for him. He was popular, had a following and was up and coming in his craft.  Seemingly, all was well in his life.  However, he had one dark cloud that was hovering over him constantly; depression. He had been dealing with depression since he was a teenager and he wanted to get better, he wanted to hang in there and he loved his family and friends with all of his heart.  However, in the midnight hour when he was all alone, he could not sleep; he was feeling down and did not want to bother anyone. He tried to talk himself into laying back down and drifting off to sleep.  He tried.  His mind was racing and his feelings of sadness came to the surface. He was in a good place just this same time last week.

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You Are A Champion

You are a CHAMPION, despite your circumstances. It is true that a depressed mind is splintered, fragmented, unstable and confused more often than not. However, you are valued and your life is important. For this reason it essential that positive thinking surrounds the mind and spirit. In order to conquer depression and begin living a more productive life there are key strategies. The following changes in your daily regimen can make a huge difference:

#1) Healthy eating

#2) Exercise

#3) Take vitamins

#4)  Get sunlight every day

#5)  Complete at least two productive tasks per day

This strategy of five alone can help to renew, recharge and rejuvenate your mind.

Fighting depression is extremely hard work and seeking professional help is advised if you are not feeling better over a two week period. It is important to obtain the wherewithal attitude about doing whatever it takes to get better.

You are worth it, you count, you matter and God cares. Your life has meaning and purpose and you are valuable. You are resilient because despite all you at going through,

YOU ARE STILL STANDING, YOU REALLY ARE A CHAMPION;

You are someone who against all odds continues to fight to improve your quality of life. You are strong

Giving Up Is Never An Option

 FOODS THAT FIGHT DEPRESSION

 http://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/foods-that-fight-depression.aspx

 

 

Your Fight Against Depression Must Be Relentless

To fight depression be relentless.  you must be willing t0 fight a battle that will often feel uphill. Your fight must be relentless. A person who is relentless exudes confidence, has a resolve, and is not willing to be swayed by anyone. When someone is relentless, they keep fighting, they do not quit, they never give up, they keep trying, they push through, they keep moving forward. A person who is relentless will not take, “NO” for an answer, they are determined to win, they are committed to their goal, they will seek and find the answer, they will research, problem solve and keep going.

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A Depressed mind believes it is always alone

An individual who suffers from depression often feels they are alone. Even though they believe their life can get better; they accept their reality. Deep down on the days when others around them feel they should be, “on top of the world,” and instead they are fighting to breathe, they are truly alone in their personal pain. One of their most compassionate and loving friends, will eventually grow frustrated because they fail to see any progress in their situation. Even this person only understands to a certain degree and really cannot fathom the feeling. Times like this really hurt the depressed individual because they know their progress is hit and miss; situational and seasonal; yet their fight is unrelenting and they want to be free from depression more than anything else. Anyone who listened to the daily struggle the depressed individual endures; would not be willing to walk one day in their shoes. It feels like you must always be on your, “A” game, you must be prepared to fight when you have no wind in your sail, to overcome and push through when you are mentally and physically exhausted. Your survival depends on it, but even given that it seems to be an insurmountable battle. A great deal of being depressed is how the individual feels about circumstances, comments, and their ability to cope with day-to-day happenings. The individual who suffers from depression has the condition on their mind when they awaken in the morning and when they lay their head on their pillow at night. They really need to have their thinking reprogrammed. It is during their darkest hour, when they feel like giving up and they literally feel alone. They do not want to share with their friends how they really feel every day; because they are afraid their friendship with feel like a burden to them; they often avoid communication when they are experiencing a downward spiral. This is probably the worst time for them not to communicate because they are alone with their thoughts. If you sense this in a loved one; force the communication and help them push through the pain of feeling all alone. It is really a cry for help and just communicating a simple message may be all they need to get back in the game. GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION

The Worst Part of Depression

The worst part of depression is not knowing day to day how you will be feeling. As we all know, time waits for no one which means a depressive episode can occur at the worst possible time. Such as, a busy week that requires your attention to details and your optimal performance. A time when you are required to engaged with others and you are just not up to it. No matter what comes your way, it seems depression changes the outcome. It is really a frustrating existence dealing with a mental illness that requires your constant assessment and wherewithal. Living with depression is like being in a race for survival every day; knowing the outcome has nothing to do with how much you trained or prepared. The outcome is largely based on your ability to overcome the thoughts that permeate your mind and the feelings of sadness that plague your soul.

Continue reading

Can I Continue This Way

I am really sad right now. I have had a stressful month with so many different issues. A death in the family of a close aunt, a sick dog, misunderstandings with friends and physical illness. I have endured terrible headaches every day and my  level is extremely low.

Continue reading

Helping You Understand My Plight

Helping you understand my plight would allow you to, walk  in my shoes, feel what I am going through, share my pain and experience my plight. I am not seeking your sympathy but rather your understanding; I am not expecting you to fully understand what I am going through; but ask you to be willing to accept my circumstances. 

I want more than anything to be healed from this unforgiving disease that attempts to steal my joy every day of my life. If you try to understand my plight, you will understand I am not always late on purpose; I may say, “no” to the social events you invite me to, but my decision has nothing to do with you.  Depression causes me to lose interest in friends, makes me feel like sleeping all the time and robs my energy. Some days I am able to escape the gloom, but on others I am not feeling as capable.  It really can be a dark existence but as many understanding individuals I can reach out to the better my chance for survival.

 

 

Do Not Take On The Problems Of Others

It has been my experience that many people who suffer from depression are codependent and their main focus is on the care and concern of others. They take on the problems of others and rarely tend to their needs; often ending up in both physical and emotional pain.  In return, depression manifests and profound sadness begins to set in. The depressed individual must remain mindful of their sensitive condition in order to not take on stress producing situations. Often, it becomes difficult because many are characteristically nurtures. This means they may take on financial hardships which causes their personal desires and interests to be put on a permanent hold.

Taking a complete inventory of all the problems that were created either by helping other people or putting their needs first; would likely point to small percentage of problems you can take ownership of.  The depressed individual must accept they cannot, “save everyone,” especially when they are dying every day.   The problems of others are not your responsibility and cannot remain your priority.  You must find a way to take care of you and make it all about you.  Do not take on the problems of others if you want to be free of depression.

 

Depression and Vulnerability

Depression causes vulnerability among its sufferers because they reach out for help and understanding. The depressed have everything to lose because of their vulnerability. They develop a sensitivity as a result of the vulnerability they experience and the self-doubting thoughts that often permeate their mind. The depressed individual more than likely knows the thoughts are not true however, they persist and during weak moments they resonate.  Most people are afraid to reveal their true feelings, expose their secrets or pour out their heart.  They do not want to be placed in a compromising position because their vulnerability may portray a weakness.  Even though depression sufferers need someone to listen and try to understand, they often feel misunderstood. They are constantly trying to either rationalize or understand the intentions of others when there may not be an intention. 

Continue reading

Depression Has No Power In My Life

RECITE MONTHLY

Depression has no power in my life.  I have nothing to prove to anyone. I am my own person capable of holding my own and I do not need validation from anyone to determine my self-worth.  I will begin today making independent decisions based upon my needs. I will no longer place the needs of others before myself; I will stand up and fight for the convictions I am not willing to compromise. I know that my depression in part stems from other people who I have given to much power over my life.  Every day I will begin to make decisions that will reflect my beliefs and value system.  I want to heal and therefore I will take on difficult tasks and make better choices for the right reasons.                                   Giving Up is NEVER an Option

 

 

 

 

The Rest My of Life

RECITE DAILY

The rest of mt life will be better. I am more determined than ever to fight depression head on.  I will no longer sleep my life away and no matter how hard it is to get out of the house, I vow that I will. I am no longer willing to let depression define who I am .  My life is worth living and I am here for a purpose.  I will not give up because, “Giving Up Is Never An Option.”

Depression Makes Life So Hard

Depression makes life so hard. Today, I learned of the death of a twenty-four year old young man by way of suicide. As I read the article I was pained for his family, but especially for him.  He was so young.  He had many positive things going for him. He was popular, had a following and was up and coming in his craft.  Seemingly, all was well in his life.  However, he had one dark cloud that was hovering over him constantly; depression. He had been dealing with depression since he was a teenager and he wanted to get better, he wanted to hang in there and he loved his family and friends with all of his heart.  However, in the midnight hour when he was all alone, he could not sleep; he was feeling down and did not want to bother anyone. He tried to talk himself into laying back down and drifting off to sleep.  He tried.  His mind was racing and his feelings of sadness came to the surface. He was in a good place just this same time last week.

Continue reading

You Are A Champion

You are a CHAMPION, despite your circumstances. It is true that a depressed mind is splintered, fragmented, unstable and confused more often than not. However, you are valued and your life is important. For this reason it essential that positive thinking surrounds the mind and spirit. In order to conquer depression and begin living a more productive life there are key strategies. The following changes in your daily regimen can make a huge difference:

#1) Healthy eating

#2) Exercise

#3) Take vitamins

#4)  Get sunlight every day

#5)  Complete at least two productive tasks per day

This strategy of five alone can help to renew, recharge and rejuvenate your mind.

Fighting depression is extremely hard work and seeking professional help is advised if you are not feeling better over a two week period. It is important to obtain the wherewithal attitude about doing whatever it takes to get better.

You are worth it, you count, you matter and God cares. Your life has meaning and purpose and you are valuable. You are resilient because despite all you at going through,

YOU ARE STILL STANDING, YOU REALLY ARE A CHAMPION;

You are someone who against all odds continues to fight to improve your quality of life. You are strong

Giving Up Is Never An Option

 FOODS THAT FIGHT DEPRESSION

 http://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/foods-that-fight-depression.aspx

 

 

Your Fight Against Depression Must Be Relentless

To fight depression be relentless.  you must be willing t0 fight a battle that will often feel uphill. Your fight must be relentless. A person who is relentless exudes confidence, has a resolve, and is not willing to be swayed by anyone. When someone is relentless, they keep fighting, they do not quit, they never give up, they keep trying, they push through, they keep moving forward. A person who is relentless will not take, “NO” for an answer, they are determined to win, they are committed to their goal, they will seek and find the answer, they will research, problem solve and keep going.

Continue reading

Helping You Understand My Plight

Helping you understand my plight would allow you to, walk in my shoes, feel what I am going through, share my pain and experience my plight. I am not seeking your sympathy but rather your understanding; I am not expecting you to fully understand what I am going through; but ask you to be willing to accept my circumstances. I want more than anything to be healed from this unforgiving disease that attempts to steal my joy every day of my life. If you try to understand my plight, you will understand I am not always late on purpose; I may say, “no” to the social events you invite me to, but my decision has nothing to do with you. Depression causes me to lose interest in friends, makes me feel like sleeping all the time and robs my energy. Some days I am able to escape the gloom, but on others I am not feeling as capable. It really can be a dark existence but as many understanding individuals I can reach out to the better my chance for survival.

You are never alone; there are so many people who care about you

"You are valued, worthy and your life is important."