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Break Your Depression

You can break your depression and start living better. Depression is a debilitating disease that millions of sufferers fight to overcome. Here I share my personal experiences living with depression in an effort to manage my symptoms more effectively and help others in the same situation. It has become a, "life line' and brings me joy. My hope and prayer is this blog will bless and encourage you to never give up. I truly believe the contents of this website and the posts will help you better relate to your current situation and begin to make decisions that will catapult your life to next level. I have suffered from depression for longer than I will admit and have been treated for this debilitating condition for several years. I was anti-social and although I was able to maintain my employment, I was not "happy". Some days I felt somewhat "happy" while other days I felt as though I could see no real "purpose" for my life. I was just existing from day-to-day. As I sought treatment after years of prodding from my best friend, I started taking medication and although I have improved in many ways I am still impacted by depression on a daily basis. I want to share my experiences in an effort to help someone else with a similar story. I know there are many people who need help but are afraid to seek treatment. Please take the time to subscribe to this blog for daily insight and If there is something I can do for you send me an email; u_r_worth_it@yahoo.com.

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To Whom Much Is Given, Much is Required

"Continue to give and you shall be blessed exponentially."

My Tears Are Temporary

My tears are temporary because I will not allow depression to get the best of me. My tears are temporary because I am fighting to overcome my circumstances. My tears are temporary because I am expecting a breakthrough any day now. My tears are temporary because even if sadness endures for the night, joy will come in the morning. My tears are temporary because I will not always feel as though I am in a dark place. I will soon walk into a place that is illuminated with a brilliant light that shines and beams; I can feel the reflection on my face that feels warm and peaceful. My tears are temporary because I know I will come out of this stronger. I know I am a winner because I refuse to quit. I am a winner because giving up is never an option. I am a winner because there are individuals waiting on me to succeed to empower them.

Every Setback is a Setup; For a Comeback

Every time you are faced with a perceived SETBACK; fired from a job, passed over for a promotion, failing health, sad news or a disappointment. You are actually being prepared for a major breakthrough in your life. All of these circumstances are common life experiences that shape who we are. Often times,they catapult us to the next level in life, the next step on our journey, the next rung on the ladder of success. We are being SETUP for success, aligned to overcome, seasoned to shine. The sweetest COMEBACK of all time has been forecast in your future, and it is headed your way and destined to appear. We must remain steadfast, true to our purpose and relentless in our quest. Hang in there, do not give up and continue doing what you do best.

Your Latter Will Be Greater Than The Rest

"Everything You Need To Succeed Lies Within You."

Why People Kill Themselves

This is a very difficult subject to discuss. However, I want to shed light on the issue because I know so many people try to understand why their loved ones would commit such an act perceived to be, “selfish.” I am able to speak on this topic because I have suffered from clinical depression for most of my adult life.

If I had to answer the question about why I became depressed I would say the single event I believe contributed the most; the sudden divorce of my parents. It has taken years to arrive at that conclusion but it’s all makes sense now. I was a freshmen in college and it was devastating. I consider myself to be a resident expert on the reason people kill themselves because I believe that 95% of people who suffer from depression have thought about ending their lives.A depressed person who take psychotropic drugs has the means to end their life by simply taking an overdose and the truth is, if someone really wants to die by way of suicide there is not much anyone can do unless you catch them in enough time to save them.

Let me say this, in most cases the successful person in committing suicide is not trying to hurt anyone; they are trying to end their pain. At the moment they decide to pull the trigger, hang themselves,jump off a bridge, take an overdose, step off the curb into oncoming traffic, or sit in the garage with the car running. During that time and space, during that precise moment they believe there is absolutely nothing to live for and life is too painful. Death is bearable. This feeling of hopelessness may only last for a split second but… That is when they jump, or pull the trigger, or take the overdoes, or step off the curb, or put the noose around their neck, or start the car engine; for that second they could not continue on. They never lived to realize the next moment, or hour, or day or week would be better. Some may have killed themselves accidentally. Most importantly know, it was most likely not about you, or because of you.

Depression is a debilitating disease that affects millions of people every single moment of every single day. People who are depressed do not want to be this way.. They feel as though they are a burden when they are feeling down and that is why they isolate themselves, stop communicating and try on their own volition to pull themselves out. You should know the warning signs but there may not be any. The best help you do for a depressed person is to check on they through a phone call, text, email or face to face visit. Just don’t ignore them. Let them know you care and have thought about how they are doing. You can also encourage them to exercise, get at least fifteen minutes per day of sunshine, listen to upbeat music,keep a journal and set at least two attainable goals per day. They could even plan the goals out in advance and put them on their calendar so when the day comes when they don’t feel like thinking of a goal they can just check their calendar.

Do not feel sorry for people who suffer from depression, rather empathize and be committed to understanding their situation. The main thing they want from their loved ones in constant contact and reassurance they are loved and not looked down upon. Because they are in such a vulnerable state, they begin to ponder on thoughts that are not true. There mind is trying to have them believe thoughts that are not true. Most of all, do not give up on them and do not take their situation personally. They are emotionally sick and often times struggle ti understand themselves. Most of all, pray for the depressed each and every day.

50 Positive thoughts to help fight depression

TAMERA’S FABULOUS FIFTY LIFE NUGGETS
Here are all FIFTY nuggets in one place for your reading pleasure.

#1)- it is never too late to fulfill your purpose on this earth. Pray to God.
#2)-You have the power to overcome your current circumstances no matter what they are.
#3)- Sometimes you are your worst critic. Cut yourself some slack.
#4)- if you find the same types of situations or challenges coming up in your life. God wants you to act differently, move in a different direction or make a different decision. Pass the test; then you can move on.
#5)- Your best testimony is comprised of the small wins, the doubts you overcome and the realization that you have what it takes.
#6) You are perfect the way you are
#7) Everything you need to succeed lies on the inside of you
#8) Do not allow other people to steal your joy; take away the power they have over you.
#9) Laugh five times more than you worry and let God carry your burdens; leave them at His throne
#10) Usually people argue, fuss and fight due to their insecurity; do not participate.

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The Best Is Yet To Come

The best is yet to come means your breakthrough is much closer than you can ever imagine. You have weathered the storm and made it to another year and you are still standing. Keep doing what you are doing and remember, “Giving up is Never an Option.”

Getting My Life Back On Track

Often times going through a bout of depression causes personal, professional and emotional setbacks. Dealing with depression coupled with the difficult happenings in the world make it hard to cope with life. It seems everyday there is a reminder of the sadness and hopelessness we feel. The reprogramming of your mind is essential in order to overcome depression. There must be an instant response produced when the sad thoughts and feelings begin to surface. The sadness must be replaced with thoughts of happiness and good feelings. The more you focus on the positives the easier it will become to defeat depression the moment it surfaces. Simply do not allow the cloud of despair and regret to permeate your thinking.                                          

You are important and your life is worth living. No matter how badly you may feel; your life can improve and there is a purpose to your existence. I guarantee that if you begin to focus your mind on the good and leave the bad behind; you will experience exponential change.  Even if you cannot recall the last time you experienced happiness, a positive thought, or had a good day; you can still overcome your circumstances. You have the wherewithal and all it takes on the inside of you.                                                          

There are five behaviors you can implement right away to fight depression;

#1- Spend at least 15 minutes everyday in the sunlight

 #2- Exercise or move around for at least 10 minutes everyday

#3- Commit to completing at least two tasks everyday no matter how small they may seem. (i.e., watering the grass, writing a letter, washing the dishes, taking a shower, mailing a letter, making a phone call, writing a check, etc) 

#4- Do something that lift your spirits. (Listening to music, calling a friend, blogging, etc)

 #5- Make sure the room you occupy is bright, has windows, and is not a dark place.
Giving Up is Never an Option!!

 

Desperate For Change

There comes a time in our lives when we know change is necessary. At times we feel desperate for change. We know that our inability to change is holding us back from achieving our best. We know that our potential is untapped, yet we continue to make decisions that do not propel us forward. We remain stagnant. Change is hard, change is full of uncertainty and change usually involves some sort or risk. It is easier to remain in our comfort zone and pretend our situation is improving; even when the reality is we have settled back into what we know.

As human beings we are constantly growing, learning and evolving. Everyone makes mistakes, but until we begin to see our mistakes as stepping stones we may never experience our true life purpose. No matter what happens in our lives we must continue to push ourselves forward and keep inventing new ways to meet the challenges we all face. There is no one who is perfect or make the best choices and decisions all of the time.

We are all under construction and will continue to make decisions that do not reflect our best. The key point needed here is to learn from poor choices and spread our knowledge to others who may benefit. Giving up is Never AN OPTION!!

DEPRESSION and Coping

Depression and coping is fighting sadness. Depression wears the sufferer out, mentally, emotionally and physically. As we discuss eat situation be mindful that someone who suffers from depression is constantly interpreting what is happening around them and their thoughts sometimes lead to untruths. It is imperative that you are transparent with your loved one who suffers from this unforgiving disease.

The mental anguish is centered around thoughts that are triggered by behavior, mood and circumstances. Once the mood has lifted the sufferer is able to distinguish between the truth about a thought and the exaggeration that is false.

The emotional strain is tied to the feelings of despair that seep in as a reminder of your depression. In order to stay “emotionally up,” there is a daily fight because there are triggers that serve as a reminder of the uncertainty and instability depressed individuals sometimes feel. Continue reading

Depression and Courage

A courageous person is someone who is known to defy the odds.A person who shows strength during adversity. Someone who will stand up when others back down.

An individual who suffers from depression exhibits courage every day of their life. You or your loved one is fighting to live up to a purpose; they sometimes struggle to find. To keep the faith even though it seems hope has turned its back. To see the light at the end of the tunnel; when darkness surrounds them. To smile on the outside despite the pain that permeates their inside. To never give up when there seems every reason to quit. 

An individual who suffers from depression often feels life has no meaning; everything around them seems insignificant. They force themselves to engage with others at times and are fine being alone in their own world. They often feel misunderstood and many think on a much deeper level that is hard to explain. 

Depressed individuals are strong and have tremendous courage; they reach out to individuals they feel are trustworthy and will not judge their condition. You can help suppress the myth that depressed individuals are weak, attention seeking and can choose to be happy. Help spread the word that depression sufferers have remarkable courage.

GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION!!

 

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There are days when I forget about my depression; not that I seek the feeling purposely but I know what the cloud that hovers over my head feels like. It is indescribable, but I can sense it’s existence. 

At times, I am in a superb mood and I lavish to maximize and literally bottle this feeling. I feel normal with nothing to fight in my brain. It is sensational and I try to build upon this momentum to keep the feeling going; but the doom and gloom begins to seep in. I am however getting better with chasing the gloom away; but now and again it traps me. 
As I began to pay attention to what was happening in my life when the gloom would come; I realized they were stressors that that caused an adverse reaction and set off a chain of depressing thoughts. I am working hard to keep the stressors from derailing my thoughts but it’s sometimes a daily struggle. It is hard work, but in order to reprogram my mind I need assess the situation and let go of the need to solve it. 
I must put my mental health first in order to reduce my episodes of depression and eventually eradicate this disease altogether. I must believe that depression can be conquered in my life in order to anticipate healing. I sometimes wish I could help my loved ones actually experience what I go through; but I know this is not possible. I have learned how to mask my pain and keep it bottled up because I do not want to burden anyone with my condition. It can be a weary existence but I’m determined to continue fighting my life.
GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION!’

If You Can Kneel Before God, You Can Stand Before Anyone

You are far stronger, competent, and talented than you could ever imagine. You are fully equipped to handle any adversity that comes your way. The question is, are you aware and do you realize your self-worth? Stop doubting yourself and take the leap of faith. You are resilient and capable; valuable and incredible. You can STAND before anyone because you know where your help comes from and who you are. Hold your head up even when depression tries to creep in and steal your joy. You have a winner, a mover and shaker.

GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION!!

Depression is Ferocious

Depression is ferocious because no matter how hard you try, remnants of sadness and despair loom. Depression is ferocious because you cannot fight it alone although much of the time you feel alone. Depression is ferocious because it sucks all of your energy and casts you immobile. There is nothing positive to say about being depressed.

There are however ways you can cope and suppress the symptoms. Please do remember there will be some down days; but getting out of the rut quickly is essential to your overall progress.

You can better cope with depression by following a few simple rules
#1) Eat breakfast every day
#2) Bask in the sunlight for a minimum of fifteen minutes
#3) Achieving two tasks no matter how small
#4) Exercise 15 minutes every day
#5) Listen to upbeat music
#6) Listen to some funny jokes
#7) Call a friend and tell them how you are feeling
#8) Read positive quotes
#9) Spend time with your pet who loves you unconditionally
#10) Write letter
#11) Calling an old friend
#12) Respond to your email
#13) Get out of the house (Go get some ice cream)
#14) Watch the sunset
#15) Think of something that made you smile
#16) Sing to the top of your lungs and then laugh at yourself
#17) Laugh about an embarrassingly funny situation
#18) Make a silly pact with a friend
#19) Do some cleaning
#20) Pray for your loved ones

Suffering from depression is a huge burden to bear; I would not wish the condition on anyone. Having friends in your life who have an understanding about what you are going through; can be an important support system but be careful. Often times some friends make you feel guilty, want you to, “snap out of it.” and accuse you of not trying hard enough. They really can cause you more pain; Try not to take their reaction personally; sometimes they are in pain too because they want you to, GET BETTER and STAY BETTER. Sometimes it’s hard for them to believe this is exactly what you want. 

Being depressed feels like you are a burden to everyone around you; no one really knows the constant pain you are in. If they did; there may be so many reactions you would not handle well. Keep fighting the good fight until you are free. Your life is worth living.

GIVING UP IS NEVER, AN OPTION.

Depression and Triggers

As I have expressed through most of my posts, depression is a relentless disease. Even when the depressed individual is feeling well, compliant with their medication and seems to be making strides; triggers can derail the significant progress. It is imperative to identify and strategize around your triggers. 

Unfortunately, these triggers can cause the depressed individual to have a lengthy setback. Triggers are a reminder of an event, circumstance, memory, behavior or situation that caused pain. A trigger could be hearing a name, listening to a song, coming face to face with someone or just being reminded of a decision you made. 

It is necessary to actually try to plan a specific response to a trigger. Perhaps, a trigger is set off; when a song is played. The strategy could be to change the channel if you are in the car, leave the room if it will continue to play or change your thought process immediately. The key is to have an instant response and action to hearing the song. The next step is to change the negative association you have to the song. This can be achieved by thinking about something that brings you joy; when the triggers occurs immediately switch your thought pattern to that time of joy. 

In order to stay ahead of depression you must be prepared to handle the situation that trigger your sad and debilitating mood.

Remember, “Giving up is NEVER an option.”

A Depressed mind believes it is always alone

An individual who suffers from depression often feels they are alone. Even though they believe their life can get better; they accept their reality. Deep down on the days when others around them feel they should be, “on top of the world,” and instead they are fighting to breathe, they are truly alone in their personal pain. One of their most compassionate and loving friends, will eventually grow frustrated because they fail to see any progress in their situation. Even this person only understands to a certain degree and really cannot fathom the feeling. Times like this really hurt the depressed individual because they know their progress is hit and miss; situational and seasonal; yet their fight is unrelenting and they want to be free from depression more than anything else. Anyone who listened to the daily struggle the depressed individual endures; would not be willing to walk one day in their shoes. It feels like you must always be on your, “A” game, you must be prepared to fight when you have no wind in your sail, to overcome and push through when you are mentally and physically exhausted. Your survival depends on it, but even given that it seems to be an insurmountable battle. A great deal of being depressed is how the individual feels about circumstances, comments, and their ability to cope with day-to-day happenings. The individual who suffers from depression has the condition on their mind when they awaken in the morning and when they lay their head on their pillow at night. They really need to have their thinking reprogrammed. It is during their darkest hour, when they feel like giving up and they literally feel alone. They do not want to share with their friends how they really feel every day; because they are afraid their friendship with feel like a burden to them; they often avoid communication when they are experiencing a downward spiral. This is probably the worst time for them not to communicate because they are alone with their thoughts. If you sense this in a loved one; force the communication and help them push through the pain of feeling all alone. It is really a cry for help and just communicating a simple message may be all they need to get back in the game. GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION

50 Positive thoughts to help fight depression

TAMERA’S FABULOUS FIFTY LIFE NUGGETS
Here are all FIFTY nuggets in one place for your reading pleasure.

#1)- it is never too late to fulfill your purpose on this earth. Pray to God.
#2)-You have the power to overcome your current circumstances no matter what they are.
#3)- Sometimes you are your worst critic. Cut yourself some slack.
#4)- if you find the same types of situations or challenges coming up in your life. God wants you to act differently, move in a different direction or make a different decision. Pass the test; then you can move on.
#5)- Your best testimony is comprised of the small wins, the doubts you overcome and the realization that you have what it takes.
#6) You are perfect the way you are
#7) Everything you need to succeed lies on the inside of you
#8) Do not allow other people to steal your joy; take away the power they have over you.
#9) Laugh five times more than you worry and let God carry your burdens; leave them at His throne
#10) Usually people argue, fuss and fight due to their insecurity; do not participate.

Continue reading

The Best Is Yet To Come

The best is yet to come means your breakthrough is much closer than you can ever imagine. You have weathered the storm and made it to another year and you are still standing. Keep doing what you are doing and remember, “Giving up is Never an Option.”

Getting My Life Back On Track

Often times going through a bout of depression causes personal, professional and emotional setbacks. Dealing with depression coupled with the difficult happenings in the world make it hard to cope with life. It seems everyday there is a reminder of the sadness and hopelessness we feel. The reprogramming of your mind is essential in order to overcome depression. There must be an instant response produced when the sad thoughts and feelings begin to surface. The sadness must be replaced with thoughts of happiness and good feelings. The more you focus on the positives the easier it will become to defeat depression the moment it surfaces. Simply do not allow the cloud of despair and regret to permeate your thinking.                                          

You are important and your life is worth living. No matter how badly you may feel; your life can improve and there is a purpose to your existence. I guarantee that if you begin to focus your mind on the good and leave the bad behind; you will experience exponential change.  Even if you cannot recall the last time you experienced happiness, a positive thought, or had a good day; you can still overcome your circumstances. You have the wherewithal and all it takes on the inside of you.                                                          

There are five behaviors you can implement right away to fight depression;

#1- Spend at least 15 minutes everyday in the sunlight

 #2- Exercise or move around for at least 10 minutes everyday

#3- Commit to completing at least two tasks everyday no matter how small they may seem. (i.e., watering the grass, writing a letter, washing the dishes, taking a shower, mailing a letter, making a phone call, writing a check, etc) 

#4- Do something that lift your spirits. (Listening to music, calling a friend, blogging, etc)

 #5- Make sure the room you occupy is bright, has windows, and is not a dark place.
Giving Up is Never an Option!!

 

Desperate For Change

There comes a time in our lives when we know change is necessary. At times we feel desperate for change. We know that our inability to change is holding us back from achieving our best. We know that our potential is untapped, yet we continue to make decisions that do not propel us forward. We remain stagnant. Change is hard, change is full of uncertainty and change usually involves some sort or risk. It is easier to remain in our comfort zone and pretend our situation is improving; even when the reality is we have settled back into what we know.

As human beings we are constantly growing, learning and evolving. Everyone makes mistakes, but until we begin to see our mistakes as stepping stones we may never experience our true life purpose. No matter what happens in our lives we must continue to push ourselves forward and keep inventing new ways to meet the challenges we all face. There is no one who is perfect or make the best choices and decisions all of the time.

We are all under construction and will continue to make decisions that do not reflect our best. The key point needed here is to learn from poor choices and spread our knowledge to others who may benefit. Giving up is Never AN OPTION!!

DEPRESSION and Coping

Depression and coping is fighting sadness. Depression wears the sufferer out, mentally, emotionally and physically. As we discuss eat situation be mindful that someone who suffers from depression is constantly interpreting what is happening around them and their thoughts sometimes lead to untruths. It is imperative that you are transparent with your loved one who suffers from this unforgiving disease.

The mental anguish is centered around thoughts that are triggered by behavior, mood and circumstances. Once the mood has lifted the sufferer is able to distinguish between the truth about a thought and the exaggeration that is false.

The emotional strain is tied to the feelings of despair that seep in as a reminder of your depression. In order to stay “emotionally up,” there is a daily fight because there are triggers that serve as a reminder of the uncertainty and instability depressed individuals sometimes feel. Continue reading

Depression and Courage

A courageous person is someone who is known to defy the odds.A person who shows strength during adversity. Someone who will stand up when others back down.

An individual who suffers from depression exhibits courage every day of their life. You or your loved one is fighting to live up to a purpose; they sometimes struggle to find. To keep the faith even though it seems hope has turned its back. To see the light at the end of the tunnel; when darkness surrounds them. To smile on the outside despite the pain that permeates their inside. To never give up when there seems every reason to quit. 

An individual who suffers from depression often feels life has no meaning; everything around them seems insignificant. They force themselves to engage with others at times and are fine being alone in their own world. They often feel misunderstood and many think on a much deeper level that is hard to explain. 

Depressed individuals are strong and have tremendous courage; they reach out to individuals they feel are trustworthy and will not judge their condition. You can help suppress the myth that depressed individuals are weak, attention seeking and can choose to be happy. Help spread the word that depression sufferers have remarkable courage.

GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION!!

 

.

There are days when I forget about my depression; not that I seek the feeling purposely but I know what the cloud that hovers over my head feels like. It is indescribable, but I can sense it’s existence. 

At times, I am in a superb mood and I lavish to maximize and literally bottle this feeling. I feel normal with nothing to fight in my brain. It is sensational and I try to build upon this momentum to keep the feeling going; but the doom and gloom begins to seep in. I am however getting better with chasing the gloom away; but now and again it traps me. 
As I began to pay attention to what was happening in my life when the gloom would come; I realized they were stressors that that caused an adverse reaction and set off a chain of depressing thoughts. I am working hard to keep the stressors from derailing my thoughts but it’s sometimes a daily struggle. It is hard work, but in order to reprogram my mind I need assess the situation and let go of the need to solve it. 
I must put my mental health first in order to reduce my episodes of depression and eventually eradicate this disease altogether. I must believe that depression can be conquered in my life in order to anticipate healing. I sometimes wish I could help my loved ones actually experience what I go through; but I know this is not possible. I have learned how to mask my pain and keep it bottled up because I do not want to burden anyone with my condition. It can be a weary existence but I’m determined to continue fighting my life.
GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION!’

If You Can Kneel Before God, You Can Stand Before Anyone

You are far stronger, competent, and talented than you could ever imagine. You are fully equipped to handle any adversity that comes your way. The question is, are you aware and do you realize your self-worth? Stop doubting yourself and take the leap of faith. You are resilient and capable; valuable and incredible. You can STAND before anyone because you know where your help comes from and who you are. Hold your head up even when depression tries to creep in and steal your joy. You have a winner, a mover and shaker.

GIVING UP IS NEVER AN OPTION!!

Depression is Ferocious

Depression is ferocious because no matter how hard you try, remnants of sadness and despair loom. Depression is ferocious because you cannot fight it alone although much of the time you feel alone. Depression is ferocious because it sucks all of your energy and casts you immobile. There is nothing positive to say about being depressed.

There are however ways you can cope and suppress the symptoms. Please do remember there will be some down days; but getting out of the rut quickly is essential to your overall progress.

You can better cope with depression by following a few simple rules
#1) Eat breakfast every day
#2) Bask in the sunlight for a minimum of fifteen minutes
#3) Achieving two tasks no matter how small
#4) Exercise 15 minutes every day
#5) Listen to upbeat music
#6) Listen to some funny jokes
#7) Call a friend and tell them how you are feeling
#8) Read positive quotes
#9) Spend time with your pet who loves you unconditionally
#10) Write letter
#11) Calling an old friend
#12) Respond to your email
#13) Get out of the house (Go get some ice cream)
#14) Watch the sunset
#15) Think of something that made you smile
#16) Sing to the top of your lungs and then laugh at yourself
#17) Laugh about an embarrassingly funny situation
#18) Make a silly pact with a friend
#19) Do some cleaning
#20) Pray for your loved ones

Suffering from depression is a huge burden to bear; I would not wish the condition on anyone. Having friends in your life who have an understanding about what you are going through; can be an important support system but be careful. Often times some friends make you feel guilty, want you to, “snap out of it.” and accuse you of not trying hard enough. They really can cause you more pain; Try not to take their reaction personally; sometimes they are in pain too because they want you to, GET BETTER and STAY BETTER. Sometimes it’s hard for them to believe this is exactly what you want. 

Being depressed feels like you are a burden to everyone around you; no one really knows the constant pain you are in. If they did; there may be so many reactions you would not handle well. Keep fighting the good fight until you are free. Your life is worth living.

GIVING UP IS NEVER, AN OPTION.

Depression and Triggers

As I have expressed through most of my posts, depression is a relentless disease. Even when the depressed individual is feeling well, compliant with their medication and seems to be making strides; triggers can derail the significant progress. It is imperative to identify and strategize around your triggers. 

Unfortunately, these triggers can cause the depressed individual to have a lengthy setback. Triggers are a reminder of an event, circumstance, memory, behavior or situation that caused pain. A trigger could be hearing a name, listening to a song, coming face to face with someone or just being reminded of a decision you made. 

It is necessary to actually try to plan a specific response to a trigger. Perhaps, a trigger is set off; when a song is played. The strategy could be to change the channel if you are in the car, leave the room if it will continue to play or change your thought process immediately. The key is to have an instant response and action to hearing the song. The next step is to change the negative association you have to the song. This can be achieved by thinking about something that brings you joy; when the triggers occurs immediately switch your thought pattern to that time of joy. 

In order to stay ahead of depression you must be prepared to handle the situation that trigger your sad and debilitating mood.

Remember, “Giving up is NEVER an option.”

Helping You Understand My Plight

Helping you understand my plight would allow you to, walk in my shoes, feel what I am going through, share my pain and experience my plight. I am not seeking your sympathy but rather your understanding; I am not expecting you to fully understand what I am going through; but ask you to be willing to accept my circumstances. I want more than anything to be healed from this unforgiving disease that attempts to steal my joy every day of my life. If you try to understand my plight, you will understand I am not always late on purpose; I may say, “no” to the social events you invite me to, but my decision has nothing to do with you. Depression causes me to lose interest in friends, makes me feel like sleeping all the time and robs my energy. Some days I am able to escape the gloom, but on others I am not feeling as capable. It really can be a dark existence but as many understanding individuals I can reach out to the better my chance for survival.

You are never alone; there are so many people who care about you

"You are valued, worthy and your life is important."